People teach you how to treat them and they show you who they are. Don’t discount someone when they show you who they are. Believe whatever you are seeing with them and about them. Don’t try and rework what is presented to make someone into what you want them to be.
You are treated by people the way you have trained them to treat you. If you are willing to put up with disrespect or the crumbs of a relationship, that is what you will get. When you date people or live with others, make sure you are not training them to do things where you are placed in a subservient role or a lesser position in the relationship. If you have an opinion about something voice it. Be yourself. Allow yourself to be treated well. Treat yourself well and take care of yourself and your needs.
Taking on roles in relationships may seem great but you are better off being yourself and letting them be themselves. If something doesn’t work for you, you will know it much faster and then can make your decisions based on that.