Look at what you truly value. Now look at how aligned you are with what you truly value. Does it match up? What changes do you need to make so that you are in your integrity.
We hear people stating that they are a certain way but that is not what the alignment shows or their behaviors show. They profess one thing and act totally differently. They may say that they are sweet and kind but spend a lot of energy denigrating others. Pay attention to your thoughts, words and actions and see if you are in alignment. If not, make the changes to bring yourself into alignment with your true desires of who and what you are. There is no right or wrong way to do this. Just be honest.