Look at how you have agendas. Where do you force your agendas onto others? Pay attention to your motivation for whatever you are doing. How is your agenda working for you? How do others react to your agendas? When you are with certain people, can you be with them without any agenda?
There are times it is nice to just be present with someone without an agenda or trying to control how the encounter will go. Learn to be with people without forcing your will on them or assigning what needs to happen before you are with someone. There are times in business where you may need to have a meeting planned out so that others know what to expect but it isn’t required in many other areas of your life and you must have flexibility and be present at what needs to truly take place..